The Lesson of Respect & Space
A man goes into a Schul and gives a speech, in front of a congregation, that contradicts the understandings of the teachers/rabbis who asked him to speak. The teachers/rabbis feel disrespected. Soon after the teachers/rabbis confront the man about his statements and the disrespect he showed in their space by making such statements. The man who made the statements feels upset yet does not really want to apologize. He doesn’t yet see that he lacked respect for the space he was in and the people’s beliefs who asked him to speak and he lacks a compassion for others. Finally the man writes a letter of apology because another friend of his persuades him to do so. The man shows appeasement, not deep compassion and return, to fix the sorrow of the situation. Without further intervention the man will repeat such behavior again.
A few days later the man is studying with his teacher and his teacher gives him an offhanded statement that steps into the space the man believes in. The man is the one now who is upset and he tries to find sources for his teachers statement. He feels his space has been violated and disrespected because of his teachers remarks for he never heard a statement like that before. He wonders what this is about.
The teacher doesn’t give a damn about the statement. The statement was nothing. It was only a vehicle for the lesson: That this man should experience what its like to have a core belief, and internal space, stepped on and to DEEPLY UNDERSTAND his lack of compassion and respect for the spaces and individuals around him.
Eric Sander Kingston